It is not advice giving.
Counselling is a confidential relationship between you and me in which you can talk about whatever is making you unhappy. You will be listened to without being judged or told what to do.
There are two main types of therapy available: long term and short term. During this lockdown period I am also offering a third type of therapy space - a stand alone one off session which can help work through the day to day difficulties and look at finding some coping strategies and techniques.
Long term therapy involves going deeper to uncover what is going on beneath the surface, being really seen and integrating those difficult feelings into your every day life. Some of those difficult feelings will have been driving us to repeat bad choices or distract us from our real goals but we are possibly unaware of them during our every day lives. Long term therapy takes a real commitment to counselling by entering into a relationship without a known destination or possibly knowing the end date, but being willing to undertake the journey. As with most things in life, the more you put in, the more you may get out.
Short term therapy involves indentifying the ‘nuts and bolts’ of the problem, visualising what life would look like if we could solve it and identifying the feelings that are preventing you from acting that way. Short term therapy can only look at a small aspect of your life but the experience can give you resources to utilise in other aspects of your life. Short term therapy can also be called Solution Focused Therapy and usually has a set amount of weeks agreed during the first session. Most people have around 8 sessions. We can work to that timescale and we can review at week 7 to see if you are happy to end then.
Both forms of therapy need commitment to attend weekly meetings, the willingness to stick with it even when difficult feelings arise and to share those with your counsellor and finally, the commitment to see it through without ‘jumping ship’ at the final stages.
Sometimes, words won't be enough and I sometimes use some form of art work, maybe a visualisation, written work and other techniques which I am happy to disucss with you. As with anything, if it doesn't feel right, we won't do it.
If you would like to make an appointment, please ring me on 07531 555 878.
07531 555 878